“Take This Man” – written for my friend Tom Fleming R.I.P.
My good friend Tom Fleming was taken from this world on Nov 7th 2014. One year ago today.
After a life of ill health his pain was finally gone. He left behind a heart broken, loving family and a wonderful wife.
I was out of the country when I found out Tom’s passing was inevitable. Likewise when he was being laid to rest in his native killarney. However, he was then where he has been since the first day we met in the dialysis unit in CUH…In my mind and heart.
I’m not going to try to explain my friendship with Tom here because it’s truly unexplainable. I just know that he was someone who had a profound effect on me immediately. I know I am one of so many whose lives and very existence were made all the better for knowing him. I’m glad now that I made sure he knew this when he was alive. Our mutual experiences and deep set understanding of true vulnerability thought us to trust each other and so be honest.
Of course I’m really sad that I will never again talk in person to Tom. I will never again see that life loving face. But?…I have a connection, a channel if you want, to a time and place where we were connected to our life saving machines. We would swap stories of our lives, dreams and loves, while the facade of happy talk was shielding us from our own truths and fears. We were strong then. Stronger than either one of us could ever imagine being again. So now when you see me singing “Take This Man” with my eyes closed…you know where I’ve gone.
Through the channel and back to my friend Tom for strength.
R.I.P My Friend. Xx
Until next time…
Thanks so much for your support.